Mindfulness for Couples
“When we are present, we are more likely to connect with our partners on a deeper level and to build a stronger relationship.”
Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. It can be a helpful tool for couples because it can help them to:
Increase communication and understanding: Mindfulness can help couples to listen to each other more deeply and to understand each other's perspectives more fully. This can lead to more open and honest communication, which is essential for a healthy relationship.
Reduce conflict: Mindfulness can help couples to become more aware of their own thoughts and feelings, as well as the thoughts and feelings of their partner. This awareness can help them to respond to conflict in a more mindful and productive way.
Increase intimacy: Mindfulness can help couples to focus on the present moment and to appreciate each other's company more fully. This can lead to a deeper sense of intimacy and connection.
Improve resilience: Mindfulness can help couples to cope with stress and difficult times in their relationship. This is because mindfulness can help them to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning.
Here are some specific mindfulness exercises that couples can try:
Mindful listening: When you are talking to your partner, take a moment to focus on their words and their body language. Really listen to what they are saying, and try to understand their perspective.
Mindful touch: When you are physically interacting with your partner, take a moment to focus on the sensations of touch. Notice the warmth of their skin, the softness of their hair, and the strength of their embrace.
Mindful gratitude: Take some time each day to express gratitude to your partner. This could be something simple, like thanking them for making you a cup of coffee or for taking out the trash.
Mindful silence: Sometimes, the best way to be mindful with your partner is to simply be silent together. Enjoy each other's company without feeling the need to fill the silence with words.
Verywell Mind has some great ideas for applying The Mindfulness-Based Relationship Enhancement (MBRE) Program at home. To see their article, click here.
If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationship, mindfulness is a great place to start. There are many resources available to help you learn more about mindfulness and how to incorporate it into your relationship. You can find books, articles, websites, and even apps that can teach you the basics of mindfulness.
Here are a few resources to get you started:
The Mindful Couple by Craig Lambert and Debbie Lambert: This book provides a comprehensive overview of how mindfulness can be used to improve couples' relationships.
The Gottman Institute: This website offers a wealth of resources on relationships, including information on mindfulness and how to use it in your relationship.
Better Sex Through Mindfulness: Psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto offers a revolutionary approach to improving desire, arousal, and satisfaction inside―and outside of―the bedroom.
Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help couples to connect more deeply, communicate more effectively, and resolve conflict more peacefully. If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationship, mindfulness is a great place to start. If you’d like personal guidance on this, click here to request a session.
I am a PhD in Clinical Sexology candidate at Modern Sex Therapy Institutes and have a Master of Science in Educational Psychology. I work with individuals, couples, non-monogamous relationships, and groups in topics related to sexuality, emotional regulation, communication dynamics, and changing behaviors.
