Clarity and Directness: Clearly and directly express your desires and boundaries.

Active Listening: Listen attentively to your partner's desires and boundaries.

Respect: Show respect for your partner's feelings and choices.

No Pressure: Never pressure your partner into any activity.

"I" Statements: Express your feelings and needs using "I" statements.

Avoid Assumptions: Refrain from making assumptions about your partner's desires. But also, don’t be too afraid to ask, you aren’t a mind reader!

Establish Trust: Create a supportive and non-judgmental environment.

Active Listening: Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues.

Non-Judgmental Attitude: Avoid negative comments or assumptions.

Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication: Utilize body language, eye contact, and tone.

Setting Boundaries: Define and respect personal boundaries.

Specificity: Clearly state desires and boundaries.

Willingness to Compromise: Find middle ground when desires differ. There are times when this is possible and there are others where there is just absolutely no way. Understand what are your yeses, noes, and your maybes. What is up for negotiation- maybe with an understanding that this is for one person or another- and what is out of bounds.

Patience: Developing communication skills takes time and practice.

Negotiation: Be open to finding mutually enjoyable activities.

Context Awareness: Adapt communication to the situation and relationship stage.