Many feel sex is a vital part of a healthy relationship. Yet, just as many are unsatisfied with their sex life. It's nearly impossible to have mind-blowing sex every single time. After years of doing it with the same person, in the same places, likely following the same routines, it's hard to keep "it" alive and well... Add life transitions, sharing responsibilities, and the changes that come with aging. Are we doomed?

Good Enough Sex

The Good Enough Sex model is a concept that encourages couples to let go of idealized expectations. It helps couples combat this issues and offers a sex positive approach to sexual dysfunction. Here are a few starter points:

1. Discuss realistic expectations. Desire and performance fluctuate.

2. Nurture your relationship. Emotional closeness may lead to more satisfying experiences.

3. Communicate openly your sexual needs, desires, and boundaries.

4. Explore and experiment with different sexual activities, techniques, and fantasies that you both find pleasurable (or are curious about!).

5. Focus on pleasure, let performance and specific goals go.

6. Desires and needs change. Be flexible and adapt to accommodate each other.

7. Address the impact of stress and other life factors on sexual desire and functioning.

Do you want to improve your sex life and strengthen your relationship?

As a Sex Counselor, I've helped individual and couples...

• Explore, acknowledge, and communicate their sexual needs and desires.

• Identify what gets in their way and create opportunities to spend time together without distractions.

• Gain confidence in experimenting with different sexual activities, techniques, toys, or resources.

• Have better sex and relationships through mindfulness-based practices.

• Learn how to navigate differences in sexual needs or desires that are incompatible.

Resources

Not ready for one-on-one sessions? No problem! You can explore the resources page or follow Blissful Bonds on Facebook and Instagram to get more tips and resources. You may also keep an eye on the Events page and join group discussions, Couples Yoga, and other events.