A healthy sex life is essential for any long-term relationship. It can help to strengthen intimacy, communication, and trust. However, it can be difficult to keep the spark alive over time. Here are a few tips:

1. Make time for sex. It may seem obvious, but it's important to make time for sex even when you're busy. Schedule regular date nights or make time for sex in the morning or before bed.

2. Be spontaneous. Don't always wait for the perfect moment for sex. Sometimes, the best sex happens when you least expect it. Try surprising your partner with a massage or a sexy text message.

3. Experiment with new things. Don't be afraid to try new things in the bedroom. Experiment with different positions, toys, or activities. This can help to keep things exciting and prevent boredom. Using the right lubes, toys, cushions, and other things that can support you and make it more comfortable.

4. Communicate with your partner. Talk to your partner about what you like and don't like in bed. This will help you to better understand each other's needs and desires.

5. Make sure you're both getting enough sleep. When you're well-rested, you're more likely to be in the mood for sex.

6. Eat a healthy diet. Eating a healthy diet can help to improve your overall health and well-being, which can also lead to a better sex life.

7. Exercise regularly. Exercise can help to improve your circulation and energy levels, which can also lead to a better sex life.

8. Take care of yourself. Make sure you're taking care of your physical and emotional health. This means getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising regularly.

9. Avoid stress. Stress can take a toll on your sex life. Find healthy ways to manage stress. Learn to ask for support, relying on each other, and to support each other in stressful times.

10. Be patient. It takes time and effort to keep the spark alive in a relationship. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately. Just keep trying and eventually you'll find what works for you and your partner.

By following these tips, you can keep the spark alive in your relationship and enjoy a healthy and fulfilling sex life for years to come. In addition to the tips above, here are a few more specific things you can do to keep the spark alive in your relationship:

• Pay attention to your partner's body language. Pay attention to the way your partner looks at you, touches you, and makes love to you. This will help you to understand what they like and don't like. Feed off each other’s turn on…

• Do things that make your partner feel special. This could mean anything from cooking them dinner to giving them a massage. Make them feel loved and appreciated.

• Be supportive and understanding. Life can be tough, and it's important to be there for your partner when they need you. Let them know that you're there for them, no matter what.

• Sexuality across the lifespan: Know that sexuality, sex, and what we are attracted to changes across the lifespan. Being flexible and open to rediscover new ways to experience pleasure is key to maintaining and healthy sexuality. The Good Enough Sex model is a great guide to embracing pleasure and connection independent of physical limitations.

• Have fun together. Don't forget to have fun together. Go out on dates, play games, or just spend time talking and laughing.

Keeping the spark alive in a relationship takes effort, but it's worth it. By following these tips, you can keep your relationship strong and healthy for years to come. If you’d like help rekindling desire, click here to request a session.